…but what do I buy for the baby?

I just posted “So you’re having a baby…” for my expecting friends.  While I gave you good tips on what to READ, I neglected a few items on what to HAVE for the baby.  Trust me when I say this, it is a lot less than you think.  Besides the obvious of your diapers of choice (do I go cloth or disposable?) and getting the kid home (yes, you need a car seat), there are a few items that we found indispensable:

Mei Tai


This is a Mei Tai.  It is not a Mai Tai (but you might need that too).  It is one piece of cloth that you can wrap and tie into various devices to carry the baby.
Why I love it:

  • It has no hooks, snaps, or velcro to mess with.  You just tie.  That also means different people can wear it and it is not “sized” for one person.
  • It is easy to wash.  Babies are messy.  This is fabric.  Throw it in the washing machine.  Done.
  • It is versatile.  We often used this to tie Baby G to a high chair in Asia, or to carry misc. stuff from the car.
  • It keeps the baby close.  This is my favorite.  All three of my kiddos practically lived on my chest.  G spent the first 12 months of her life sleeping on daddy.  You can see and hear them sleeping and you can check in a moments notice.
  • It goes everywhere.  You just stuff it in a suitcase or baby bag and away you go.  Lu and I walked all over Belgium just tied together.



This is a “rocker.”  When the baby is first born you are going to want to have him/her right next to momma.  It beats getting up and going to another room.  It is also MUCH easier on the mother to just roll over, grab the baby, feed, and go back to sleep.  It keeps the baby safe in a small rocker by the bed, and it folds up nicely when not in use.
I have many memories of B just sticking her toe out of the covers to rock a crying kiddo back to sleep.  This particular model does well to not tip over.  We also never used the vibrating effect.  We found the older kids would turn it on more often than we ever did.

Hope these items help you on your quest to raise a bitty human.

So you’re having a baby…

…good for you?  Are you ready or are you freaking out?  One of my colleagues today mentioned that he had to sit through four different birth movies.  4!  That is the same number of Scream movies BTW!

I don’t know what they put in the water at work or the wine at church but it seems like everyone around me is having a baby.  So, I created this collection of things that have helped us with our first 3 kids.  Some are common, don’t judge me on the last one:







What to Expect When Your Wife Is Expanding: A Reassuring Month-by-Month Guide for the Father-to-Be, Whether He Wants Advice or Not
Are you the dad-to-be?  Want to only read a chapter a week?  Feel you might be lazy and skip a week?  This is the book for you.  I loved it because it tells you week by week what to expect from your wife and your baby.  I found it pretty spot on.  If there was something changing in the baby or they started to sleep differently, this book helped me understand why.

The Baby Signing Bible
Your kid is going to understand you long before they can talk to you.  That is where baby signs come in.  Think of the easy ones like “bye-bye” and “peek-a-boo.” These signs allow you to communicate with the kid.  With my first child, we got up to greater than 60 signs.  By the end we were signing words like peaches just because we could.  When your child starts letting you know they have a diaper, or they are hungry, you will be glad you did this book.  There is no wrong way to do it.  If you can repeat the sign every time you say the word, then your kid will pick it up quickly.


Dunstan Baby Language
So here is the crackpot one.  There is this Australian lady that identified 5 sounds that babies make.  Ne-Ne means they are hungry.  It sounds crazy, but it works.  We have used this with all three kids.  Just make sure you listen to the DVD BEFORE you have the screaming baby as she soothes many kids over and over.

There you have.  My non-expert parenting tips that have worked for us.  Good luck and get some sleep.